frequently asked questions
Here is all the juicy stuff, the good and the bad. We have been super honest here to help you make the right choice on our services and to decide if we are a good fit for you.
We have a dream! We aim to help every single person living in Adelaide who desires a fabulous social life to achieve just that. That’s approx. 300,000 in SA. We have helped more than 3000 people over the past 10 years. And with a 97% success rate of members enjoying their first dinner or event, your chances are high to meet someone you would enjoy meeting again. We are good at what we do.
Who are your members?
The members who receive the most benefit from Social 8 services are those who are lacking in opportunities to meet new people, who desire to meet people from a broader walk of life, who find all their friends in relationships and lack same gender single friends, who are lonely outside of work and family, who are too busy to arrange social occasions for themselves. Many social 8 members join us after a long-term relationship has ended which often for both men and women results in self-worth taking a bit of a hit. These people are confident in their work arena, confident with family and friends and yet lacking in confidence when socially meeting new people likely because of a lack of practice at doing this. For many they haven’t socialised as a single person for years or decades. Social 8 dinners and events provide the perfect arena to regain social confidence, help you get your mojo back and feel good about yourself again.
What does it cost to become a member?
We are excited to share with you that to become a member of Social 8 gold dinner and events membership (the most popular service) is only $495. To join our Silver events membership is $195. To join our Platinum Introduction Service is $995 or our Diamond Introduction, Dinners, events and Coaching Membership is $2500. We know two of our competitor’s charge $3,300 and $2,400 for a lot less service and opportunities than we give!!!! Yes, that’s right. And yet we feel we not only charge less than a quarter of their price for the gold membership, but also provide a superior service! The fee entitles you to be a member for 12 months with the silver events and gold dinner and events and 6 months for platinum introductions and during this time you will be invited to various opportunities. Have a look at the membership options page to see the different options and read the FAQ about Introduction Services here.
Still need convincing this is money well spent? This is your investment in our time to make sure we don’t waste your time meeting people you are not likely to enjoy meeting. The fee covers our time to apply our filter system to our membership program ensuring you only meet genuine single people and not the time wasters! Need more convincing? The gold membership is less than a TV, or a gym membership or a cup of coffee a day for 3 months and is guaranteed to give you more pleasure than these other items! OK no more convincing here. You either see the value and respect what we do or you don’t. If you are excited by our service, then please read on!
Are there other costs involved?
Yes. We charge various co-ordination fees for putting together and hosting various events. They range from $25 for our simpler events which cover our co-ordination fee and event host, up to much more depending on what is being supplied. To view events on offer and the costs involved, please visit our what’s on page. Our dinners also have a $33 co-ordination fee for each dinner you attend. Food and beverage costs are additional with individual bills for just what you have ordered. This fee is set to cover our time putting the dinner together, gathering feedback post event and swapping out of numbers of anyone who wishes to catch up again. We manage your privacy here so this fee covers that service too.
How long is the membership for?
The Silver and Gold Memberships are for 12 months, the Platinum and Diamond Memberships are for 6 months. We understand however that there may be a need to place your membership on hold, usually due to having met a partner or due to extended travel. You are able to place your gold or silver membership on hold for a maximum of 12 months which would extend your membership to a maximum of 2 years. The Platinum and Diamond Memberships can be placed on hold however they expire at 12 months. To do so, we require an email requesting us to do this. To take your membership off hold and participate again in events and/or dinners, we require an email to re-activate your membership. At the completion of 12 months, you are also able to apply to renew your membership with us should you still desire good social opportunities and/or introductions. You are also able to apply to upgrade your membership at any time to a higher level.
Can I dine with my own age group?
Absolutely. Most of our dinners on average are with people 5-8 years either side of your age dependent on gender and age however it may be up to 15 years if we believe someone either older or younger could be someone you would enjoy meeting. We encourage you to dine with as wide an age range that you feel comfortable with however as the more people you meet, the greater your chance of meeting people you will want to see again. Increasing your social network is the key to finding a life partner or great social life. Talk to us about your preferences and we will advise if we can accommodate your wishes.
Can I get someone’s number I like at the dinners and events?
Yes and No, this is one of our only rules we have and something our members really appreciate about Social 8. No asking for phone numbers or dates at the dinner table or members only events. We love this rule as it lets you focus on having fun without the fear of being rejected, having to say no, watching someone you like ask another for a phone number or any other socially awkward situation that can occur. Instead we email you the day following asking if you have met anyone you would like to catch up with again. If so, we email that person to ask permission to share mobile numbers with you. This simple rule allows our members to focus on good social opportunity without awkward moments.
Everyone tells me I don’t look my age. Can I meet people younger than me?
So often we meet people who don’t look their age. We also meet people who don’t act their typical age or those who have a much higher energy than typical for their age. It is however difficult for us to put you at dinner with people lots younger than you, (say 15 years younger). The main reason is that we don’t have very many people (both male and female) asking to meet people 15 years older. So, while you may not look or act your age, it is our job to ensure we are as honest as possible when co-ordinating the dinners. Dependent on your age, most dinners will be with people approximately 5-8 years either side of your age although this can vary dependent on our member’s requirements. We also however give you invites to attend our member’s only events which are often in wider age groups. An example is 30-45, 50+ or 46-60 yo etc. This way dependent on your age, you may easily meet our members that are younger. The same goes for our non-member events which as a member you will be invited to first! All age groups are guidelines only.
How many dinners will I go to?
It is difficult for us to give a clear answer here as it varies depended upon your availability, age, gender, personality and the gender balance within your age range. Most members will attend dinners anywhere from fortnightly to every few months. On average, the majority of members attend a dinner monthly. We always aim for you to receive a dinner invitation every month however we are unable to guarantee this due to gender imbalances that can occur in various age ranges from time to time. If it is likely to be less, we will discuss this with you prior to joining however feel confident, we are wanting to give you the most opportunities we can. Your membership entitles you to go to up to 18 dinners over 12 months. This way you can make yourself available as suits you together with giving us some flexibility due to gender balancing.
How many events can I go to?
Loads, we have events nearly every fortnight! In the past we have had wine tasting, cooking evenings, golf, painting class, quiz nights, bingo, theatre, movie nights, cooking classes, photography class, movie nights, tennis, running, bush walking, valentines cocktail party, Halloween evening, life coach workshops, beer evenings and Christmas parties. Our events are mixed between being in smaller suggested age groups such as just 30’s to 45’s or 45’s and over etc, most are open to all ages while still others such as our quiz night are for all ages with tables in age groups. We recommend you go to as many events as possible as the more you attend, the more likely you are to meet special friends, important business contacts and romantic partners.
How many introductions will I get?
Again this is difficult to really know as a lot of this will depend on your criteria. On average platinum and diamond members receive introductions 2 weeks after you have met with your past introduction and provided feedback. We are committed to helping you meet people who meet your three not negotiables however we aim here for quality not quantity. We will discuss the likely frequency here once we have met with you.
What is the proportion of men to women?
At our dinners, 95% of the time it is 3 ladies and 3 men. Our membership varies all the time and depends on which age group however we work hard to aim at a 50/50 balance. At group events, women will book in early so we quite often get up to 25 percent more women than men although over the past 6 months most events have been very close to 50/50 gender balance, something we aim to achieve. We keep close tabs on the registrations for all events and will do everything we can to achieve a gender balance where advertised. We often contact and email members to encourage them to come out and join in. Some of our events such as theatre nights are not age or gender balanced, simply a nice night out with nice people! With regards to our membership program for dinner attending, we often have more ladies than men in certain age groups (this changes on a monthly basis and can be the reverse with more men than ladies) which means we can have a waiting list. This can happen in all different age groups however we will advise you should this currently be the case in your age group. The main reasons are that ladies tend to be more comfortable joining an organisation like Social 8 without knowing anyone who is a member. They also are born networkers which results in ladies loving our dinners and recommending us to their friends who come and join. On the other hand, many of our male members are more comfortable joining after hearing from friends how comfortable and easy it is to be a member. To help us maintain gender balance, please spread the word to those men in need of extra encouragement. And men, you need to be where the ladies are. Come and join us!
Will I meet the same people at dinners?
Occasionally you may, as statistically to continually select 6 people who have not met before, in the same age group or are all available on the same night does become difficult. Instead we guarantee you will always meet two people of the opposite gender at each dinner you have not met before. We aim for 3 and often this will happen. If you meet someone you would prefer to not dine with again, simply let us know and we take care of that at future dinners.
What is the age range of your members?
Open to everybody aged 30 and over. The largest part of our membership ranges from the late 30’s through to late 50’s though.
Is your membership price always the same?
Yes, however we do occasionally have specials for various age groups and genders to balance our database. Our greatest commitment to our members is to ensure we maintain as close to gender balance in each age group to ensure we can continue to honour our commitment to provide new people for you to meet. Sometimes we will offer a price reduction special to entice a membership balance or we may offer the opportunity for a limited time for a particular age or gender to attend more dinners to help balance the dinner opportunities.
Why are the dinners for six and not for eight?
We tried running the dinners with eight as we understand our members want to meet the maximum number of people, however we found the tables were too large and conversations became split up into smaller groups leaving it difficult to have a conversation. As a result, we are Social 8 arranging dinners for six with the occasional dinner for 8 (or even 5 or 7)
Where are the dinners held?
We use restaurants in the surrounding suburbs of the CBD typically these areas are North Adelaide, Norwood, Kensington and Parkside. You are welcome to give us your preference to ensure you don’t need to travel too far. All dinners are held Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday and Saturday nights at 7.30pm however Saturday nights are the most popular night and we expect member to be available the majority of Saturday nights to receive the best value for membership.
How do you seat people?
We have small discrete place cards with just your first name on it and place these boy/girl etc. As the tables are for only 6 people, it is easy for you to converse with all at the table. In the event that you have previously met a guest of the opposite gender at dinner, we provide each venue with a seating order in which the guests are seated allowing you to have two new members either side if you. These place cards are not to be changed in order prior to all guests present at dinner.
How long do the dinners last?
Our dinners are all on Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday and Saturday evenings and start at 7.30pm (Saturday’s the most popular) and often end early (often around 9.30pm) because most people work the next morning. However, if a group is enjoying themselves, which is a regular occurrence, the dinner may go much later. So, if you need to be the first to leave due to an early start the next day, please feel comfortable to do so however we expect you to stay until around 9.30pm. All our members have careers and they understand. That said, it is not uncommon for our dinners to kick on until the restaurant has the lights flashing. We believe a sign on a good night.
I’m extremely busy, what if I can’t attend a dinner you have planned for me?
We have this covered as most of our members are busy people however if you are rarely available Saturday nights then this service may not suit you. Each month we email you a link to an on-line calendar where you submit the nights that best suit you and that you can commit to attending, for us to plan a dinner for you. This way we know you can say yes to the dinner invite and you are only given dinners on nights that suit you. We do ask that you submit your dates to us each month to ensure regular dinner invites and that as your availability changes, you update your calendar for us.
What do I wear?
Usually smart casual is appropriate. We suggest you dress to impress as first impressions count. Why not also make yourself feel good to help the success of the evening. Buy new clothes or get a modern haircut, have new make-up done or get a professional shave. Feeling good does translate into helping to have a great night out.
Can Social 8 match make for me?
Yes. Our introductory membership of either Platinum or Diamond is perfect for those desiring full matching. The purpose of our Silver and Gold membership is to provide you with regular social opportunities, something that is lacking for many people and to introduce single people to our members who are also looking for fun, friendship and fine dining. However, many of our members become romantically involved, even more end up doing business together and a majority make lasting friendships. It is however natural for us to want to pair you with someone we believe you will enjoy meeting, particularly as we get to know you better over time however this service of matching at dinners is not guaranteed. If you have special requests, let us know and we let you know if we feel we can help you.
How best can Social 8 work for me?
Be realistic in your expectations. It is highly unlikely that you will meet that special person at your first or second introduction, dinner or event. It has happened but it is a very rare occurrence and one you should not pin your hopes on. Instead we recommend you focus on enjoying meeting lots of new people and encourage you to make a new circle of friends. Take some responsibility for your enjoyment of the service, try to initiate conversations, ask out someone, and be friendly and approachable. Make Saturday nights your priority to be available to attend dinners giving you the best chance of meeting the types of people you desire to meet. The success of the service depends upon people taking an initiative, committing and instigating fun, instead of passively waiting to be entertained
Can I use Social 8 to network for business?
Of course you can! Our events are a great way to network, so bring a stack of business cards. We do ask that you refrain from giving sales pitches during the members only dinners though. This is a dinner party, and while it’s okay to discuss your line of work, please don’t pressure your “captive” audience! Many mutually beneficial business partnerships have started at Social 8 dinners.
Is my name ever given out?
No! Your name, address and phone number are personal and kept confidential. We never give them out to anyone without first getting your permission. Ever! And then it is only your mobile phone number. No other information is shared except for lifestyle information for those who are participating in the Introduction services.
Can you help me contact someone I’m interested in?
Yes! We will email that person for you to ask if we can give you exchange mobile phone numbers. This happens all the time, usually dozens of times each day and our members find it’s a great way to take that first step. Don’t be shy email or call us! This is what you are here for.
What if I need to cancel or can’t show up last minute?
This is strongly discouraged because of the difficulty of scheduling on short notice and the importance of gender and age balance for the dinners. If you must cancel, notify the office immediately by phoning 8362 6800. This service is answered 24/7, so can attempt to fill the space however PLEASE honour your commitments. We will charge the $33 dinner co-ordination fee, $25 event co-ordination fee and any event ticket costs (if unable to be resold) when cancelling to cover administration costs. The integrity of our club depends upon the integrity of our members. Unfortunately, we do have a three strikes you’re out policy. Most of our members and committed, reliable people however if someone continually cancels events or dinners, we must put a stop to that as it affects the other members.
Can a non-member attend a dinner?
Sorry, guests are not allowed at Social 8 dinners or members only events. We do occasionally have non-member events or events that members can bring a guest. Most of our dinners and events are a privilege for members only. Please feel free to invite your friends to our non-member group events.
Do you pro-rata refund my membership if I meet someone on my first dinner, introduction or event or two?
We don’t. We jump up and down getting very excited for you and celebrate again how great this service is. We even get excited if you met someone special, not through us and we had nothing to do with it. On a slightly negative note, what we do is place your membership on hold. This makes your file inactive. While we sincerely hope you have met ‘the one’ and you won’t need our services again, experience has taught us that sometimes it isn’t the one. If this happens to you, you can feel comfortable knowing that your membership can be activated at any time for up to a maximum of 2 years from the date of joining for gold and silver, or up to 12 months for Platinum and Diamond memberships, and you can continue to go to dinners and events or introductions again should you need to.
What if I want to stay a member beyond the 12 months?
Great! Many members have renewed their membership with us and we welcome you to do so. Due to wishing to maintain gender and age balance, you will however need to apply to re-join. If we have current vacancies in your age group and believe we have many more members for you to meet, then we would love you to renew your membership for another 12 months. You are also able to choose from the Diamond, Platinum, Gold and Silver membership.
Can I change my level of membership?
Yes, you are able to upgrade from Silver (events only) to Gold (dinner and events) or to Platinum (introductions) or Diamond (package of all services) as long as we have current vacancies in your age and gender. You are also able to change your membership from Gold to Silver should you find you prefer the events more than the dinners. We try to be flexible here for you to enjoy your Social 8 experience.
What if I don’t like the dinners or events and want a refund?
Thankfully this is a very rare occurrence, however if you are really unhappy we can place your membership on hold for double its period eg. A one year membership can be put on hold for a maximum of two years, a three month membership special can be put on hold for a maximum of six months. We don’t offer refunds so think about this carefully before joining. 3% of members will not enjoy the dinners and events. 97% of members will. So the odds are good that you will enjoy it. Typically (bit not limited to), the person who does not enjoy the dinners is someone who is joining us only to find a partner and has a very narrow view of who they wish to date. We are a social club, not a dating club (except for the platinum and diamond level of membership) so we cannot guarantee you will date. If you are considering joining Social 8 at the dinner and event level and only wish to date, then please don’t join. This is not the service for you. Alternatively, if you are someone who has a very narrow view of who you wish to socialise with and are not interested in diversity, then again, our service is not suited to you. If your social agenda is to meet new people in comfortable settings, grow in your confidence and/or self-worth, have opportunities to practice socialising as a single person, potentially expand your social network and friendships and possibly have opportunities to date, then this service will provide valuable opportunities to do this.
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